Living in a new place 3 bedroom townhouse by myself, starting a new chapter in my life and i turned 60 last July and that one hurt, first one that did but i was living somewhere new and it made me miserable, but another move 2 in less than a year and I’m in an amazing place, in fact i rarely leave the master bedroom as its big 50” sony on wall at foot of bed, walk in closet, washroom with beautiful shower and the sitting area in the bedroom has my old living room in it, couch end tables everything and another big closet then 2 more bedrooms and a bathroom with a great big tub, main floor living room they left a gorgeous leather couch and loveseat and another 50” on the wall, nice backyard and so quiet, i don't drink, i had to stop because of medication and only sober one at parties it sort of lost any appeal. And ive lost friends to it, But i have been a licenced medical cannabis user since July 2009, when only 3500 Canadians had one.it was literally a drug of last resort. i have no objection to others drinking but they will have to deal with my cannabis use. I’m a mental health and additions rights advocate primarily for the military and first responders and our indigenous peoples, At first I couldn’t understand how i managed to build the network i have, but it all comes down to respect and I picked the right populations for that, but i have the free version and no photo at all and over 1400 really good connections some people have a hard time understanding me but what’s so difficult to understand about being nice, i ran into someone who’s name i recognized from 4-5 years ago on linkedin so i wrote a nice comment to him, but from the heart, and got that i was way too nice and i replied no I’m normal nice our interactions had a major impact on my life and i was just expressing that, your military First Responder way too humble, although i had a Deputy Chief of Metro Toronto Police say y comment had humbled her and it still sort of freaks me out that I’m connected to so many in law enforcement globally, but we help each other as i have PTSD, but 32+ years mental heath and addictions in some form and I’m chatting with 33+ years RCMP, but the work i do i a little depressing and covid has made things worse as i i have very little human contact, but i was the Patient Rep. internally and provincially in 2003 when my hospital North York General was a ground zero SARS hospital so i took COVID seriously but stay inside and social distancing have led to social isolation. Believe it or not no skeletons in my closet to find as my life is pretty much an open book, as i decided that I’d done things I wasn’t proud of and even a bunch of embarrassed by but nothing I’m ashamed of and threw it wide open and it helped when i used to talk to classes of students, as it was ask me anything. This has naturally led to a hate of lies, as one often leads to another, then you have to remember who you told what, they can even take on a life of their own, where protecting the lie becomes all important, so while i can lie to protect another not for myself or personal gain, but don’t ask for my opinion if you don’t want it, except people seek me out on LinkedIn for these very reasons, they also know I’m not going to bullshit them, and i always provide a reason for what I’m saying or source, the statements like if i recall correctly , or remember as I won’t quote it if i can’t back it up, the researcher in me i suppose and i get lost for hours looking up things to help others, that’s what i do, sat on boards and ministry of health steering committees, worked with the homeless and hungry. I haven’t been in any sort of relationship other than friendship since 1988, and ironically most of my friends have always been females, even when I was in a committed relationship, but they were just friends and yes a single guy can be friends with a woman, in fact often the friendship prevents it for fear of damaging what you have. One of my main problems is I don’t meet any available women, but feel i have a lot to offer and I don’t mean financially, but I’m secure, in order to get this place during COVID as its owned by a woman and they want to make sure you an afford it and will continue to as many jobs are not secure but 1st & Last when we made offer but balance on occupancy so October 1st she got the other 10 months and going to try later this month to make it 2 years and pay the year in advance now, i dont want to lose this place or move again and earning 2.25% of the money, has a beautiful fireplace in basement as its not in the wall, the wall is the back visible from 3 sides, i want t start cooking again as i used to be quite good, and it has all ELITE LINE appliances, good thing she kept the manuals. A friend since birth used to live just down the street from where i live as its walkable from even my old house, but everything has changed so much, but Thornhill was founded circa 1794, but we actually talked on a phone for over 2 1/2 hours recently, as nobody uses a phone and I don’t like messenger and been off it and Facebook and LinkedIn since December 31st. Not sure what I’m looking for but what i have isn’t it and for the first time I’m lonely, and have to rebuild a life in York Region as I’m no longer in Toronto, kind of hard to go anywhere with anyone at the moment and I don’t drive so am limited pretty much to where i live, but I’m harmless like saying it means anything, but name and address and hundreds of law enforcement connections.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed, The beach, A moving vehicle (i.e. car), The middle of a park, A movie theatre, A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, A swimming pool or hot tub, An elevator, A hotel room, Anywhere

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Light Bondage, Role Playing, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, A little of each

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Phoebe Cates everything as she was super hot and the waterfall
shower in movie that was called paradise or something but
her body is perfect and super nice butt too

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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