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Descent guy  

deamonsteed 51M
8 posts
5/2/2015 9:29 pm
Descent guy

Our social rules suck!

Women like men who are aggressive/assertive/confident. Men that will look them in the eye, will walk up and say hello. Men that have nerve.
The Assholes.
"Why can't I find a descent guy".
That phrase pisses me off.
Descent guys are told not to stare, so they don't.
Descent guys are told to be respectful, so they are.
Descent guys are told that women are equals, and treat them like it.
Why wont I meet a pretty women's eyes across the room? Cause I don't want to be that aggressive jerk, that creep that's staring. Get the "What are you looking at, you perv?" or some other comment design to make me feel small. Those comments only work on guys that are descent enough to feel guilty about being an asshole.
What is even more horrible is the thoughts like " Why shouldn't I be a jerk, its what they want" or "They get what they are looking for". The slow degradation of my own personal ethics. I hate that it even sounds like I'm blaming some one else for it.
And if a woman was to be aggressive with me? Been there, really good imitation of a deer in headlights. That certainly builds up my confidence.
It pisses me off that I'm too afraid to go up a talk to a woman that I find attractive. Am I that asshole I revile so much? If she s talks to me will I treat her like a jerk, cause that's how I think I'm supposed to act. Will she look at me like I'm some perv or slime for getting close to her. Or worst open my mouth and prove I'm a witless drooling idiot. ooh my fragile ego.
Please, please ignore the Asshole, and give the descent guy the chance to be aggressive. To know that you actually want him to be the assertive male that gets your primal core hot.

dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
5/8/2015 9:18 pm

 ok, your reply made me laugh. All is forgiven.


itsallfantasy 57F  
1150 posts
5/2/2015 9:53 pm

 I am just going to say that many a man that proclaims they are 'nice guys' are really the losers, not the guys they are accusing of being assholes. I AM NOT SAYING YOU ARE THIS PERSON!!! I am stating that I know for a fact one man particular that constantly says what you just did and claims women only want the assholes and upon spending more time than just chatting with him (and that doesn't mean sex!!), he has turned out to have MAJOR fucking problems and it is not that he is 'too nice.' Whining for one is a major fucking turn off, it isn't assertive at all. You can be polite and respectable and fall FAR short of what a woman wants. It isn't that she wants an asshole or a polite person, it is THE person themselves. I always knew this and after my eye opening experience I know avoid those self proclaimed 'nice guys' MORE than before. Be yourself and stop freaking over thinking it.

LOL @ decent vs descent.. nice one!


deamonsteed replies on 5/8/2015 8:07 pm:
I had just had suffered a half hour bitch fest about finding a "decent" guy when I wrote this post.

The subject hit a nerve.

The Whining about how shity men are, and the total lack of responsibility for the whiners decisions in the first place annoyed me. So I wrote out, at hi speed and with minimal spell checking, my thoughts on the matter. As I have seen it, as I have felt it.

dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
5/2/2015 9:47 pm

 just a heads us ..

Decent vs. descent

Decent is an adjective describing people and things that are (1) polite and respectable, and (2) passable or adequate. Descent is a noun referring to (1) an act or instance of going downward, (2) a way down, (3) hereditary lineage, and (4) a sudden visit or attack.


deamonsteed replies on 5/8/2015 7:51 pm:
Speeling bad. Key..thingy small CAPS LOOCK TOO CLOSE TO SHIFT KEY

Spelling is not a remote talent of mine. Add the fact I type like arthritic monkey #499 (monkey #500 rights good prose, but it's still not Shakespeare) and I end up getting frustration related errors in my musings.

Please forgive me

PS Descent was also a really good early generation 3D flight combat sim.

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